Breaking sad kindergarten 2 guide12/4/2023 He’s the type of boy who loves to be chased and giggles when we want him to stop something as if it’s a game for him. He’s such a sweet kid, but his eyes just light up when we say no to things. I have two sons, two years three months, and 11 months. And I think it’d be better for me to just kind of cut to the chase on these. I’m just going to read snippets because they’re all quite long. So the ideas I’m talking about here are fine-tuning, nuances, just getting over the hump. I also want to note that all of these families are making many strides in the right direction as far as I’m concerned. Almost all children will express their discomfort through challenging behaviors. And those of you that listen here know that I talk a lot about the emotions that children tend to go through, no matter how old they are, when there’s a new sibling. Here’s the first email I want to share… Interestingly, but not surprisingly, all three of these are about children who are at some point in the process of still adjusting to the sibling transition. So here’s another way that I want to offer that, in my experience working with parents and with my own children, really works. Regardless, when something we’re doing isn’t working and we’re doing it and doing it, we are, naturally all of us, going to get more annoyed, frustrated, angry, and down on ourselves. And it will make our lives easier, because we won’t be spending a lot of energy fruitlessly trying to get just the right tone in our voice and say something that will make them stop doing whatever it is. And sometimes they’re a little bit lacking in it, and that causes the behavior.īut it eases the behavior when we can give children this message. All of those things that children need to feel. I’m not intimidated by you, and I’m your safe person. Giving our child that feeling that: I see you. So I didn’t mean to be all mysterious when I was referring to an element missing when we address our children’s behavior. There’s a certain element that’s sometimes missing, and I want to try to bring light to that today and then share about it in three different examples that I’ve been given in emails. And, of course, we’re getting more and more frustrated, because most of us do when we’re repeating ourselves and it’s to no avail. Today, I would like to talk about an element in our approach that can be missing sometimes when our children’s behavior seems to continue, and we’re trying to stop them. Transcript of “When Your Child Keeps Ignoring Boundaries and Breaking Rules, Try This” Janet reveals a common thread and suggests a solution she believes will address these behaviors. A third parent writes that her son loves rule breaking, often in dangerous situations, and that “his eyes light up when we say ‘no’ to things.” All of these parents have exercised patience, but the behaviors continue, and so they’ve become frustrated and find themselves getting angry. In one case, a 2.5-year-old has resumed an old behavior of hitting and scratching, “but this time around it feels like he’s doing it with more purpose.” Another parent says that when their 5-year-old exhibits rude behavior and is called on it, he gets angry and accuses both parents of being mean to him. Three different families write to Janet about their children’s challenging behaviors.
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